If you could change anything about your wedding, what would it be?

My husband and I would have done what we wanted to do in the first place and would have gone Guam where my husband was stationed and gotten married there just the two of us instead of having a big church wedding back here in the States to "appease the family". It turned out awful, everything went wrong from my hair being horrid, to my make up being a rushed 5 minute bathroom job to my dress almost falling off to the floral shop not delivering the flowers and having no wedding flowers, to the pastor accidentally skipping part of the service and making the whole ceremony a total of 12 minutes from start to finish (best man timed it), to mics not working, to our original wedding site getting snowed out (in May!) three days before the wedding and having to move the wedding to a too small church (%26amp; having to notify all 300 plus guests of the change) to our cake nearly falling over, , and we weren't able to go on a honeymoon either.... what would you have changed about your wedding?

If you could change anything about your wedding, what would it be?
Wow! It sounds like the two of you earned a trip to Guam to renew your vows!
Reply:That my glasses wouldn't have broken the morning of the wedding! I had no backup, and went through everything in a haze; I can't see well far away.

However, about how the wedding went, not a thing. We had a traditional wedding for which we hosted about 200 guests, and with all our hard work and great planning - all went really well!
Reply:The only thing that I would have changed is the flowers on my cake. It wasn't exactly as I pictured. It was still very pretty- I just wanted more pink. Other than that the little things that went "wrong" just made it more perfect for me. :)
Reply:I might have waited until summer and had the wedding in my parents backyard rather then in the house. I however wasnt disappointed by anything because I didnt expect my day to be perfect in the first place. I expected things to go wrong so that when they did, I wasnt so worked up about it. and my ceremony was only about 12 minutes not skipping anything...we wanted it that way..the shorter the better. and we coldnt afford a honeymoon, but that was no big deal...and my hair dresser almost made me late for the wedding. sorry I cant sympathize with you....but your wedding really doesnt sound that bad....you got to marry the guy you loved right? isnt that the #1 thing?
Reply:The only thing I would change is the venue for the reception, we are using a family member's home, when they first offered they were happy about wanting us to use their home, now there are all sorts of rules and restrictions in place that they never mentioned before, like no shoes with heels or black soles on the grass or deck (and definitely not in the house), no music after 9pm, nobody inside the house itself unless it is raining, no kids, no food or drink on the deck area. It's lovely of them to offer but they should have set those ground rules when they first offered rather than now, when it is too late to get an alternative venue
Reply:First, I would have taken the marriage idea more seriously.

Second, I would have chosen a better husband.

Third, I would have held out for an actual wedding.
Reply:Wow! I totally understand, my wedding went down hill fast too! Start time of 5:45 turned in to 7:30, because the mother of the groom decided she just wasn't going to participate. The limo never showed up the cake was lop-sided and the pictures were a total disaster. Even after that I was the only one that could drive a stick shift car; so here I am in this Cinderella Ball gown driving a ford escort home for the 1st night of the rest of my life.... So be happy that you and you hubby are still doing in great in a few years you'll be able to look back and laugh. As for me that was the start of the end of a great relationship. So what I would have changed was the whole thing
Reply:This is easy..........THE GROOM
Reply:Murphy's Law. Not to laugh, but OMG! Did you get totally inebriated? You definitely has cause to.

My first wedding..the groom.

The 2nd...my maid of honor. She wouldn't help me at all. My son, had to button me up and ride with me to the pier overlooking the Carribean. She was already there...1/2 in the bag with her bowling buddies.

Last, I would have had a different airline fly us home. My dress was smashed and the bottom of the bag was full of sequins and pearls. Then the airline was late causing us to miss our connection in Memphis to circling Minneapolis for 2.5 hrs because of a storm almost causing us to miss the reception 4 hrs. away.
Reply:Oh my goodness, this sounds horrible, and I am about to cry because my wedding was so good, and I thought it would be horrible!



Here is the one thing I wish I would have done differently-

I had a mother of the bride and bridesmaids party in my room the night before the wedding-no rehearsal dinner, we married in a small chapel. The day of the party, I asked other guests to show up later and party, and everyone did except for my aunt and uncle-since they didn′t know anything was planned, they got tickets to a show. To this day, I feel bad that they didn′t get to join us. We had 14 people in our little hotel room, and we had a blast!



I agree-you deserve to renew your vows somewhere wonderful, and make it quick if you can because it sounds so bad when you write about what went wrong with your wedding, and not the good things that happened...cheer up-you′re both alive, hopefully healthy, and overall, YOU ARE MARRIED!
Reply:The first thing would've been my hair. I grew it out so I could do a cute updo, but I should've known that I hate how my face looks with my hair up. I should've just gotten a cute medium haircut with which I am more comfortable with and stuck the tiara and veil on top. Simple is always better.



The second thing would've been not to go so cheap with the videographer. The quality was of something I would've expected from the 1960's not in 2001. The video was horrible and so was the audio. At least I have the pictures.
Reply:1. The groom. I married the wrong guy!!! I was in my 20s and not really cognizant of the fact he was the wrong guy for me, something I could easily determine now, 20 years later.



Otherwise it was a wonderful wedding. I'd change a couple of other things though:



2. The dress. Beautiful dress, but very impractical. I needed the wedding planner to help me use the restroom!



3. Time of year: My wedding almost got cancelled due to a snow storm! Fortunately it stopped snowing and the plows were able to get everything clear.

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Fortunately, sometimes you get a second chance in life. This time I'll have the right groom, a more practical dress, and a time of year where I won't be likely to be snowed out. :-)
Reply:I didn't like the way my hairdresser did my hair, but i didn't say anything. Other than that, I wouldn't have changed a thing...we had a bunch of things go wrong, but it made it funny and more memorable.